He Said, She Said: Porn

I've had very little exposure to porn. However, it's all been well worth it. First, it's taught me all the German that I know: Schneller weiter (i.e. Faster!) and Ja, ja. Das ist fantastisch (Yeah, yeah! This is fantastic!). Both very good things to know, no doubt about it. Second, it wass in a porn video that I saw the biggest dick in my life, which was definitely a sight I will never forget. Also, it's a sight I hope I will never get to experience in my real life. The thing was simply horrifying. In general, however, I think that my limited exposure to porn is purely coincidental. Given my generally positive opinion of it, I should have seen a lot more. Go figure.

To be honest, I don't find porn immediately erotic or stimulating. I kind of remember someone telling me that men are more easily visually stimulated than women...but that could be a myth, I don't know. However, I think porn does people good in that it can be very educational and could spare us a lot of potentially embarrassing situations. To be a good sexual partner, one needs to know their partner's and their own anatomy pretty well. There's only so much one can learn from printed material or from masturbating. Porn takes care of that problem like nothing else. Seriously, I think that a lot of guys out there have no idea where a woman's clit is. That's understandable. A lot of women don't know where their clit is either. Yet, whoever told you that's not a big deal was trying to be polite. So, if you don't know or you are not sure, you should promptly get yourself a tape and take notice. Same thing for all kinds of anatomical issues: where things are and what feels good, and the like.

Another way in which porn is super-useful is to allow you to explore some of your sexual fantasies and get the basics down before you talk to your partner about it. I, for example, have always wondered about role-playing. I simply don't understand what the appeal is. You dress up. Your partner dresses up. You pretend you're somebody else. What?! Seriously, I don't get it at all. But, maybe, if I see a role-play video, I might change my mind. I might decide that it is actually pretty exciting. And who knows, at some point I might even try it out because having seen it once would have me somewhat prepared for it and I wouldn't feel as weird or awkward as I would otherwise. Also, I really have no clue how creative porn actually gets, but I can imagine it being a how-to manual of sorts. You know...new positions, new ideas, novel ways of doing things, all kinds of good stuff.

All that being said, I think that there is one thing that porn does plain wrong and hurts everyone who might be watching: the pace of it. Things just happen too damn fast. I know it's fiction and people are not supposed to take it all literally. But many people do, you know. In the great world of porn, everybody is permanently horny and women come on demand, every single time, 3 minutes into it. Well, it just doesn't happen THAT fast. Lots of people have even argued that sex in porn is not the kind of sex that women enjoy, but I don't think I want to get into this here and now...Maybe another time.

What do you people think?

P.S. Hope no under-age kids are reading this. I thought I'd soften things up a little bit, but I think sex is a serious thing and therefore, sex-related stuff need to be called with their real names. So...please accept my sincere apologies if this entry has offended you in any way. It's only one very small side of a multi-sided story.

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Peio's take on the subject, which concludes the He Said, She Said experiment. Let us know what you thought.